What Does it Mean to have a “Truly Queer” Wedding Ceremony?
A truly queer wedding ceremony isn’t about ticking boxes or following a checklist. It’s about honouring the identities, stories, and values of the couple at its centre. It’s about courageously letting go of what doesn’t fit and embracing what feels real, affirming, and joyful. Every element – from the music, to the attire, to the witnesses – can become a powerful reflection of queer love lived out loud. I hope you’ve enjoyed reading about what a queer” wedding ceremony might look like for you, and that you can now shape a ceremony that doesn’t just include queer people but actively celebrates queerness in all its beautiful, radical, and personal forms.
Bronte recalls, “Two women hired a helicopter that took them for a wonderful, guided tour of Melbourne’s CBD and then out to the iconic Yarra Valley, where 10 members of their family were waiting at a winery to greet them. After a brief legals-only ceremony, with a ring exchange but no personal vows, the couple headed inside the winery to share their first lunch as a married couple before being transported back to Essendon Airport on the helicopter.”
This Queer Wedding Guide offers inspiration and practical ideas that reflect the creativity, diversity, and authenticity of queer couples. It affirms that there’s no “right” way to get married – just your way. From inclusive language to alternative rituals, non-gendered styling, and intersectional considerations, this guide exists to help LGBTIQA+ couples create weddings that feel right, resonate deeply, and celebrate love without compromise.